Posted by George on April 02, 2002 at 10:05:16:
In Reply to: Lived a lie for 2 1/2 years, need help.... posted by Anonymous on March 07, 2002 at 12:42:45:
Hey anonymous!
I think deep down inside you know the majority rules on the advice you've received so far. There are billions of people on this planet and no ONE true love for anyone. You can potentially truly fall in love with anyone if you open your heart enough to the right people. She has lied to you for over 2 1/2 years and that alone should tell you enough. Wish this woman the best and tell her you must move on with your life. Woman are beautiful people and most of them are very nurturing by the very nature of who they are...i.e the female species. Take the time to give a warm, smiling glance (not a sexual glance)in the eyes of every woman/girl you meet and you will potentially get the same response back from most of them. If you are looking for a relationship with a girl/woman just start paying attention to them with a warm heart and the chemistry will eventually mix with a special person who will also show interest in you. Take a long break (Permanent Break Recommended)from this woman and start doing other things/activities and eventually you will notice that your feelings for her will eventually subside. The age gap alone will give you problems later. I really believe that this relationship won't work and if you go forward with it, you will feel nothing but shame for years to come once the relationship breaks. Same your life now and move on. Have faith in yourself. You will fall in love again. A successful relationship has to have commonalities and has to compliment each other. Other than finding someone willing to listen and share feelings with, I doubt the two of you would be able to compliment each other. May not be the advice you would have liked to hear, but I think you know deep down inside there is too many potential problems in this relationship. If this advice is unbearable for you, then make a decision to become good friends and stop telling each other how much you love each other and start saying "I really care about you" instead. You know it's the only way it can be.
George