Posted by David on March 15, 2002 at 11:23:11:
In Reply to: CANT THINGS GET ANY EASIER?? posted by doreen on March 14, 2002 at 18:40:45:
Doreen,
Im a guy and a junior in high school. a close friend of mine, who is a girl, came to me with a problem that sounds really similar to yours, so i thought i would tell you the same thing i told her. the most important thing in a relationship, be it a high school relationship or a long term relationship, is friendship. you said he is popular and you arent really, and i get the impression that when he is hanging around friends or "other popular people" he just kind of ignores you and doesnt really pay attention to you. that isnt a good thing. you may not want to hear it but i think if he genuinely cared about you he would pay all the attention in the world to you rather than his friends. another important thing to do is to trust yourself and your heart, and if you have bad feelings or feel that something is wrong, it very well may be. the best thing i can say to do is to confront him with how you feel, and if he feels for you the same way you do about him, then he will understand where you are coming from and why you are feeling the way you are and will work together with you to fix it. if he gets all mad and upset with you over it though, then chances are he doesnt really care. as for your friend, i think she is just jealous and trying to get you back. ive been in a relationship where things like that have happened, and such was the case there. you obviously care enough about your relationship to post here to try to get some advice on what to do, and to me that makes me think you are a good person. just remember that you deserve someone who will pay attention to you and care about you just as you care about them, and there are times when it might be hard, but you have to do what is best for you. i hope this has helped...