Posted by Dale on March 08, 2002 at 10:48:06:
In Reply to: Lived a lie for 2 1/2 years, need help.... posted by Anonymous on March 07, 2002 at 12:42:45:
Is it doomed?? Are you joking? Of course its doomed. The woman is a fucking liar. Why would you want anything to do with her. She is a lowlife with a computer -- that's all. You sound like you have a future -- you sound somewhat educated for a 17 year old. Keep studying and I promise you won't remember her in two years. Doomed? Give it a break. Change your e-mail addresses and move on.
: I just found out yesterday that my gf lied to me about her entire life. we have had an online relationship for 2 1/2 years now, and i never expected this. i am 17 years old and already i have been planning my life to fit with hers so that we can be together. she told me she was 19, and i didnt think that was too bad an age difference. yesterday i found out she isnt 19. she is 40 years old and is MARRIED and has CHILDREN. ive seen plenty of pictures of her and she doesnt look 40 in any way, maybe alittle older than 19, but not 40. This is all so hard for me to believe and to accept. She is unhappy in her marriage, her husband does nothing but ignore her, and that is why she had a relationship with me. i dont think she had any malicious intent, and i know that she didnt want to her me. her feelings for me are genuine, as are mine for her. there was a time when she was going to leave her children and husband to be with me, and i know that isnt right. but now she knows she has to get a divorce because she cant live and be treated the way that she is. i am going to be her friend and her pillar of strength during this time because she needs it and i truly care about her. the problem is is that i love her with all of my heart, and even though i know i shouldnt i cant help but have feelings for her. we have said that we cant maintain a relationship given her age and her life, and although i know that this is almost certainly true, part of me wants it. i have always believed completely in true love, and i feel that is what i have. i feel like if we have that true love then things like that shouldnt matter. it sounds strange im sure but i feel that her and i were made for eachother, regardless of the 23 year age difference. i dont know what to do, i am so confused, so i am posting my story here to see what you all think. my parents are not one bit happy about any of this, my mom has been riding my ass and she absolutely hates her guts. she doesnt want me to ever talk to my now exgf again. i cant say that i blame her, but i cant deny my heart. im so confused, please give me your opinions. i love her with all of my heart, as she does me, but still...can / should / could we do this, or is it doomed?