Posted by What to do? on October 04, 2001 at 11:01:05:
I'm in love with a liar...Is that possible? I've been with this person for 3 years. The first time he told me he had been lying to me about "petty" things, which in fact the truth was a good thing, was six months into our relationship. The issue never came up again, until later on when I realized it was constant, he hid it, he lied to everybody and that it was a problem. Or so I think, because there is no other explanation of such behaviour. I don't mind what he does, he doesn't do things to upset me, yet he lies about everything. THE LYING UPSETS me, and in result most definately taking away my sanity. I know, if I am to stay with him, he will never change. He lies to my face, even with knowing the truth, having proof of it I still ask, I don't demand, to give him a chance to tell me the truth himself...yet he insists on lying...Why? Why do liars even when caught insist on it? Even when he knows I am to find out and probably know, claiming he loves me, insist on hurting me that way?
It's either his lies, or me.
Honestly...I feel if I leave him, I would be giving my back to him, and if I stay I would be denying myself and mental health.
Please...HELP.