Posted by Val on June 23, 2001 at 07:46:00:
I'm a 22 yr old freshman and have recently started
work as a web designer. I declare myself as an
enforcer of truth and reality and in the past have
shaken people¡¦s lives by giving them wakeup calls. My
perception of people has almost never failed me, call
it good but more like a gift that seems to work
against me.
Here it goes:
I live in a house sharing with six other people, the
landlady shares her room with another girl who has
been causing a lot of stir in the house. I am fairly
new there but as I have learned more about this
¡¥trouble female¡¦ I am increasingly getting sick of
her behavior. I basically gave her the shaft from day
one (not the sex shaft) but kept out of her way
because just about everyday after work when I get home
she starts flirting with me and it bugs the hell out
of me.
In the near future I intend to take action by
discussing my feelings about her behavior towards me,
this will be one to one and it shouldn¡¦t be a
problem.
She¡¦s a prime evil: the other housemates beside one
guy don¡¦t like her. I¡¦ve heard her make conniving
comments at others (especially the females and the
couple) and basically my impression of her is: she¡¦s
jealous, vindictive and pretentious.
That isn¡¦t a problem for me, but yesterday we were
going out to have a meeting over a coffee (everybody
minus her) because the landlady was going to tell us
about a recent argument she had with ¡¥prime evil¡¦,
(forgive the unmerciful reference) . Anyway in the
name of the lesser power did she ask what we were
doing and ¡¥invited¡¦ herself to join us. One of the
girls said: ¡¥of course¡¦. "²big load of BS
So I sat there down and depressed the whole time and
they wondered what was up with me. My dissapointment
here is in my housemates not being open and telling
her the truth. I have tried and will continue to
endorse the ¡¥responsible and diplomatic¡¦ way of
truth but their humble and reserved cultural values
keep them back from self-disclosure and they go on
taking shit from her¡K I have a genuine concern for
the landlady and the others and I don¡¦t want them to
face this agony any more.
Besides setting an example (by me confronting her
hideous flirtations towards me) , should I mention
their issues or just stick to mine?
I vow to protect the feint hearted so what would be
the best way¡K to bring out this reality and make our
household a better place? -while causing the least
damage? And when is the time to cause damage if
absolutely necessary?