Posted by distraught on June 10, 2001 at 13:47:56:
My husband and I have talked and talked. We also went to a therapist last week. Since we saw the therapist, in the heat of anger, he stated that he wanted a divorce. He also keeps asking me if there is any chance in this working. I've stated that we have to keep trying and hope for the best. At this point, we have agreed to work at the relationship some more. He wants to find out "why he lies". He is analyzing himself and has thanked me for giving him a chance. I still feel like hell, because he knew from the beginning of our relationship that I had trust issues. He thinks that he may actually be the one afraid of trusting. In couseling, we found out that he likes to be secretive. This is not what I wanted to hear. Why am I feeling like the bad person here? Marriage is built on honesty, trust and openess.