Posted by Robert on March 23, 2001 at 14:35:21:
In Reply to: My father lied to me about a mother. posted by Servilan on March 23, 2001 at 13:31:31:
: My birth mother died when I was 14 months old. My father remarried 3 months later. All my life, my father would tell me how much he loved my birth mother. How, after her cancer diagnosis, they took all these trips to make her happy. She was the love of his life, etc, etc. My father's comments were all the information I had about my birth mother. Six months before he died, he decided to unload his conscience so he could die in peace. He told me he and my birth mother had been separated for several months before her death. He had become involved with another woman and my mother left him. All he told me had been one lie upon another. I now know nothing about my birth mother other than her name and where she died. This lie pierced my heart.
: Servilan,
This is indeed a huge lie that your father strapped on your back! How many years have passed since your father died? I could also lie and tell you that he was just trying to protect you, but I believe his true motive to be derived out of bitterness that grew out your real mother leaving him. The only saving grace left for you to think about might be that you had a positive relationship with your step-mother. If not, hopefully your father provided care and love that surpassed his death-bed confession. Did you have any half-siblings to grow up with? to help you cope with the hurt and pain?--Robert